Steps to Online Dating Success
Guide to Match-Making the Online Dating Way in 5
Step 5: Once
Many of my
readers might be worried that everything does
not work out like has been described, what would
they do? Or in other words if this first date
does not work out what should they do?
The answer is very simple, repeat the whole
Let’s go back to
where we started. Remember, this is a chance to
find the partner for life so we might have to
grow many plants before we get the right
I am not talking
about two timing here. What I mean is that
instead of putting all your eggs in one basket,
keep the avenues open. Don’t just bank on one
person, because if that doesn’t work out, you
might lose heart. You can hope for the best but
expect the contrary as well.
Only the every
lucky ones get the right pick at the first go it
self. For the rest of us, we just have to keep
trying till we succeed. Another advantage of
trying out different people is that you can get
to choose. It should not be that you just
flipped for the first guy or girl who came your
way. Take you time, give yourself some breathing
space and then make the right decision.
Nobody can force
you into making a commitment. It should be
completely your choice. Of course, if you get
the right cues and something deep down inside
tells you that this is the right person for you,
then what are you waiting for, go ahead and show
the green signal.
But on the other
hand if someone is trying to force you into
making a commitment and you feel hard pressed,
gently try to break away. All you have to do is
put your foot down very firmly and tell the
person that you need more time.
However, it is
not good to keep a person waiting indefinitely.
Tell the person that you need perhaps a week’s
time or more than that. But don’t let the person
realize that you are checking out other people.
Just tell them that this is probably the most
important decision in your life so you just want
to be sure.
I would like to
add one word about signing off. In case things
do not work out please take care to part
gracefully. In such instances it is not the best
decision to say such things over chat. The other
person may put forward some very uncomfortable
questions that you will have a tough time
The best thing
you cold do is send the person an e-mail telling
him or her that he or she was not really what
you had in mind, but you would like to remain
good friends all the same.
You do not have
to worry about being pestered by the other
person in future; the “good friends” part never
fails. Most people dislike to be called a good
friend after a close encounter. In most cases
the relationship just sizzles out after this.
However please remember that it is indeed bad
manners to part with out a word and just stop
answering mails without any information at all.
Some people do
that because they do not want to offend the
other person. But such callousness is really
So that is all
about it. You know everything that is to be
known and the ball is now well and truly in your
courts. So what are you waiting for, why don’t
you go out there and make your presence felt and
come back with the catch of a lifetime.
I don’t think
that we have left any stones unturned and from
here I’m sure that on your first date everything
will be well in your control.
To your first dating success online!